The second degree is to endure his harm, overlook him and ignore his mistake.
It is reported
that `Uthmaan Ibn Zaa`idah said: "The well-being has ten parts. Nine of
them belong to ignoring people's mistake." When Ahmad Ibn Hanbal was
told about this saying, he said: "The well-being has ten parts. All of
them belong to ignoring people's mistake." [35]
The meaning is
that the safety from people's harm will not be achieved except through
ignoring their evils, overlooking their oppression and ill-treatment and
forgiving all their ill conducts. He who succeeds in realizing these
characteristics, he is surely the prosperous, the wise, and the rightly
guided person. How good is the saying of the poet!
The foolish is not a master in his people, but the master of his people is the one who pretends to be a foolish.
Al-Hasan Al-Basri
said: "Treating the neighbor kindly is not the abstention from harming
him, but it is the endurance of his harm patiently." [36]
Allah has
described the pious as they repress their anger, pardon people and treat
them kindly through excusing and overlooking them. Allah, the Almighty,
says: {"… who repress anger, and who pardon people; and verily, Allah loves the good-doers."} [Aal-Imraan: 134]
Allah, the Almighty, has also enjoined doing justice and doing good to others. He, Exalted be He, says: {"Verily, Allah enjoins the doing of justice and the doing of good (to others)…"}
[An-Nahl: 90]. Justice means that the one fulfills his rights and
duties. Doing good means that the one gives up his right or a part of it
and accomplishes what is beyond his duty.
There are a
number of teachings we find in Islamic Shariah which urge pardoning,
overlooking, making reconciliation and tolerance. If the person is
commanded to treat all people with all these good morals, he, with all
the more reason, is commanded to treat his neighbor with all these good
morals.
It is narrated
that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: "Allah, Exalted
be He, loves three persons: among them is a person who has an evil
neighbor. This evil neighbor does harm with him, however, he endures his
harm patiently. So, Allah will suffice him against this neighbor by
moving him to another place or by death." In another narration: "… until
they are separated from each other by death or moving away." [37]
Many people are
able and keen to abstain from harming their neighbors. However, they do
not tolerate or, even, do not try to endure any harm caused by their
neighbours even if it is happened by mistake or negligence. You will
find them ready to be provoked by a lesser thing, and to react with
bigger retaliation on them, returning the insulting word with ten
similar worlds, and making a mountain out of a molehill. As a result,
great problems and disputes take place among them, which may be resulted
from trivial things.
If they had
adjusted themselves to endure harm, forgive mistakes, overlook faults,
ignore the call for excuses, construe their neighbors' sayings and
actions in the best sense and seek the reward of Allah regarding
pardoning and tolerance, their state of affairs would not have been as
we have mentioned.
How many great
disputes took place between some neighbors because of a dispute occurred
between their children. This matter is not strange with regard to
children. If their fathers have had wisdom, tolerance and knowledge
about the neighbor's right, these disputes would not have occurred
between them, and they also would have been able to ignore them and nip
them in the bud.
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